There are just those that we get along with more than the others are. This is not to say that you now have the permission to be nice to only some of the people you meet and be rude to the ones you do not like.
We are supposed to be educated beings who are capable of withholding emotional outbursts. It is just to tell everyone that life is not a popularity contest.
Making it to the top of the ladder means that you have to make critical decisions that may not make everyone happy. Everyone wants to be on top, and unfortunately, there is usually only room for one person to take that place.
Successful people have to make tough choices. Any leader knows that it is impossible to keep everyone happy and satisfied. Yes, we all live in a democratic society. When we are caught in a crossroad, sometimes we have to also do what is best for the majority, even if it means that the others will not like us for the pick that we made.
A “thick skin” is a prerequisite for success. If our conscience is clean and there is no doubt in our minds that we did the right thing, then we have to continue with life.
Politicians and corporate leaders deal with this dilemma all the time.
The more we put off our decision, the harder it is to achieve anything in life.
Consider the daily ordeal that these people have to endure and think about the great job they are doing. The important thing is, they did not allow their success to be dependent on the approval of others.
As much as we want to be admired and liked by everyone we meet, people are just built differently from each other. Everyone has their own belief system that they pattern their life to. This system is based on culture and past experience.
The world is just too vast a place to expect that all people think alike. The approval of others is crucial to our survival. No one likes the life of a hermit, or if they do, these are extraordinary people who deserve to live in a world of their own.
For most cases, man and society must live hand in hand. However, when we look at its flipside, there are also those whose sole purpose for survival is to completely surround themselves with people.
To be successful, we need to find what is in between and achieve a healthy balance with the aspects of our life. We need to earn the respect of people and at the same time not become independent of their approval.
It is a matter of internal confidence to forge our belief system in spite of what others think. This requires risk taking and tough decision-making. It is having the courage to persevere. It is all about being self-assured and knowing that we have everyone’s best interest at heart.
We must believe in our cause, thus allowing us to push through with our true calling despite what others think. When it comes to being liked and respected, it is imperative to remember that some will approve of it while others will not.
So what? As long as we remain true to our values, we know that we lived our lives according to how we truly want it.
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